My boyfriend is going to a masseuse, should I be worried?

Posted: March 28th, 2010 | Author: admin | Filed under: masage supplies | Tags: , , , , | 26 Comments »

My boyfriend is going to a masseuse, should I be worried?
I don’t know how this works…so masseuses require you to get completely nude right? And the buttox is also a part of the procedure as well. I don’t know how I feel about another woman massaging my boyfriend’s body while he’s naked, particularly his butt. And I’m pretty sure he’s not getting an erotic massage so there’s no chances of her touching his penic right? That’s the main thing I’m worried about. I would also like to know if masseuses are usually young and attractive because then he’d be getting turned on..and that also makes me feel quite uncomfortable, just the thought of that. I’m so fed up. My boyfriend is hispanic, and I’ve learned…living in america for about 16 years (I’m 18 now) that hispanic/black and all western men are very unfaithful. The problem of “cheating” is so common…I’m a woman of middle eastern ethnicity and I’ve noticed that men in my own race are less unfaithful and prone to such untrustworthy behavior because they are so lustful. (but please focus on the main point here, sorry I got sidetracked) Just my personal opinion, feedback is appreciated although I’d prefer answers to my question. thank you very much

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26 Comments on “My boyfriend is going to a masseuse, should I be worried?”

  1. 1 shkurte968 said at 1:32 am on March 28th, 2010:

    if ur worried YOU GOT IT BAD how can u not belive the one you love

    if ur not ,then i bet nuthin will happen anyway

  2. 2 Polly Palaver said at 2:18 am on March 28th, 2010:

    Be afwaid. Be vewy afwaid!!

  3. 3 Ne-San said at 2:26 am on March 28th, 2010:

    Why is this in the section Religion?

  4. 4 ἄθεος Ermine With A Lady said at 2:31 am on March 28th, 2010:

    yes. why don’t you give him the massage?

  5. 5 Nar-Sheptha said at 2:55 am on March 28th, 2010:

    If your worried, tell him you want to go along. Then I assure you, nothing will occur.

  6. 6 Ricky said at 3:15 am on March 28th, 2010:

    Unless its xxx massage I wouldn’t worry.

  7. 7 Ryan said at 3:50 am on March 28th, 2010:

    Why are you asking this question in R&S? Do you want us to exorcise your bf?

    IF he really wants to give you peace of mind, ask him to request for a male masseuse.

    IF he insists on a female masseuse, be suspicious, be very suspicious.

    Masseuses are known to offer other services for a price. Ask him what are his intentions.

    If he has a stray eye for other girls, please drop him like a hot potato and move on with your life.

  8. 8 Lauren H said at 4:17 am on March 28th, 2010:

    you shouldn’t be worried, you sound quite paranoid. Masseuse’s never touch anywhere that private they just massage. when they do massage buts they stick they’re elbow in so its painful not pleasurable.
    you have nothing to worry about.
    if he does cheat or even consider it then he’s not worth it

  9. 9 reservation211 said at 5:04 am on March 28th, 2010:

    Find out the name of the place he’s going to. If it’s a place you or your friends have heard of (like a spa for instance), I would say it’s fine, you have nothing to worry about.

    If it’s a place that’s in a shady party of town or is a place that has a reputation, than you might want to be concerned.

    But odds are, he’s going to a spa to get a massage, which people of both sexes do all the time. And if that’s the case, you shouldn’t have anything to worry about.

  10. 10 madzguy007 said at 5:22 am on March 28th, 2010:

    lucky man

  11. 11 Vera S said at 5:51 am on March 28th, 2010:

    If he’s been honest with you in the past there is no reason not to trust him. Your relationship is going no where fast with your lack of trust.

  12. 12 Helen M said at 6:20 am on March 28th, 2010:

    If he’s not getting an erotic massage done, you shouldn’t worry too much. Masseuses come in all shapes, sizes, ages, and levels of attractiveness, so there’s not a lot of telling there. Here’s hoping his masseuse is an ugly man.
    P.S. Try having a little more faith in him. If you’re willing to date him, he should be trustworthy.

  13. 13 gumpus77 said at 7:10 am on March 28th, 2010:

    If hes going to a legitimate massage place you have nothing to worry about. Usually you dont go nude you get a towel or something. If you know about it you dont have to worry because hes being honest and if you are still unsure ask him where he want for it. If its a sleazy and run down place then I would defiantly wounder what was going on. But I wouldn’t worry much legitimate massage places don’t touch or do anything sexual.

  14. 14 Gastounet said at 7:16 am on March 28th, 2010:

    The best masseuse are men dear. Just make sure that condoms are used and you have nothing to worry about. Your boyfriend is just relaxing…
    You are very welcome.

  15. 15 Caroline! said at 7:39 am on March 28th, 2010:

    You shouldn’t be worried unless he goes often,,
    If you want to, you could follow him?

  16. 16 dM said at 8:39 am on March 28th, 2010:

    Not sure what a penic is, but no, they won’t touch it. removing your clothes is your choice, however if you do, areas not being worked on will be covered with a towel. It’s all completely above board.

    Masseuses can be young, old, attractive, unattractive, male, female, black, white… etc. etc. etc. Just ask your boyfriend what’s going on instead of getting all worked up over nothing.

    Just one thing though: don’t be so judgemental of your boyfriend just because he’s hispanic. How will you ever have a secure relationship with someone who you don’t trust purely because he’s not middle eastern? This says more about you than him.

  17. 17 señorchipotle said at 9:26 am on March 28th, 2010:

    if you are worried about your bf cheating on you with a masseuse, it sounds like you have some personal problems to get sorted. if he’s never cheated on you, then give it a rest. if he has, then just break up with him. simple

  18. 18 chieko said at 9:39 am on March 28th, 2010:

    you’re insecure, racist and paranoid to boot.

    1. if you can’t trust your bf to get a massage without it being a booty call, why are you with him?
    2. if you believe his race predisposes him to be unfaithful, again, why are you with him?
    3. if his “buttox” or “penix” are of such concern to you, why don’t you claim sole massage rights to those areas?

    not a healthy relationship…

  19. 19 Noota Oolah said at 10:12 am on March 28th, 2010:

    If your jealously is this severe then you should end the relationship.

    Of all the men I’m dated, three have cheated one on was Indian (Punjab) and the other Persian (Iran).

    Is your boyfriend going to a masseuse or a Massage Therapist? A Massage Therapist is certified and licensed to practice in your area as well has much schooling. A masseuse could be anybody as is usually the name given for “Massage Parlor” workers, who are glorified prostitutes and could be enslaved or illegally brought in from another country (check out the term “human cargo” for more info on that)

    Unless requested, a good number of Massage Therapists do not require underwear to be removed or they will leave a towel covering the butt and will leave it untouched. Besides, to be honest most people fart up a storm when they’re getting a real massage, most therapists DON’T want to be touching their butts if they don’t have to.

    Why don’t you just go with him? Or go get rubbed yourself, it sounds like you could use some relaxation.

    What does this have to do with R&S anyway?

  20. 20 ThatOneGuyThatMakesYouGoWhoa! said at 10:36 am on March 28th, 2010:

    If he truly was your boyfriend, and he loved you, you shouldn’t be worried. To be worried that your boyfriend is going to a masseuse projects obstacles in your relationship already. It seems to me that it’s not so much of unfaithfulness issues, but more of trust issues. Trust him, and with that, all the false statistics that Hispanic and western men tend to be more unfaithful will disappear. I’m Hispanic, but I would never think of being unfaithful to a woman. When you start getting weird about the masseuse, you create a paranoid relationship, instead of assuring yourself that your relationship will prevail. Don’t be so uptight with the trust issues, because it will hurt your relationship in the end. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t protect him at all, but sometimes, people want some freedom too. Think of this “I have him, the masseuse doesn’t”. It’s not like he’s going to leave you just because a random masseuse gave him a pleasure that I’m sure you can give him too. Calm down, and be more care free.

  21. 21 Ynot said at 11:19 am on March 28th, 2010:

    You are being very unfair to stereotype masseuses (and western and hispanic men for that matter). There are lots of reasons people visit a masseuse, and a hugely wide range of massage therapies. So if your boyfriend has a good reason for seeing a masseuse I see no reason to worry.

    By the way, every masseuse I ever visited in the USA ended up touching my penis.

  22. 22 advice4meplz said at 12:16 pm on March 28th, 2010:

    I don’t think you should be worried. Maybe you should find out which place he is going to. If you know it’s a well known place, chances of something inapropriate happening are very unlikely. They take their jobs very seriously, and I don’t think they see it as something sexual. As for where he will be massaged: Massaging the males penis is definitely not part of the job. And as for the buttocks, well they don’t concentrate on it too much, and they don’t exactly squeeze it or anything. It’s very professianl. They just check for tension. Basically, if you think he is going to a reputable place, you have nothing to worry about.

  23. 23 Frank F said at 12:40 pm on March 28th, 2010:

    You would probably get better answers if you asked this in a different section, however, as I am a retired masseur I’d like to, hopefuly, dispel some of your fears.

    I’m assuming first of all that he is getting massage for therapeutic reasons only e.g. back pain, poor circulation, stress etc.

    It is highly unlikely that your boyfriend will be asked to strip naked, but if he is he will still emerge from the changing room wearing a towel and will get up onto the couch with the towel still in place. This will be loosened slightly so that the masseur or masseuse can move it around, revealing only the part of the body being massaged at the time. We learn towel techniques which always preserve the modesty of the client and, even when turning over from front to back, the towel is moved in such a way that no private parts are revealed, whether the client be male or female.

    No, the majority of female masseuse are not necessarily young and attractive and they certainly know how to handle a young man who might get ideas he is not supposed to have.

    The only worry you need to have is if he is visiting the ‘other’ kind of massage parlour. Then you should be REALLY worried, and drop him like a hot potato.

    p.s. A masseur is a male who gives massage. A masseuse is a female who gives massage.

  24. 24 red said at 1:15 pm on March 28th, 2010:

    well, im female and ive had massages in thailand and even though they arent erotic massages the ones i had, it was like a completely orgasmic out of body experience. i swear i was about to ask all of them to marry me, even the women.

    tell him to go to a MALE masseure if he wants his massages so badly, find one in the phone book. if he refuses i would dump him. he may not be doing anything but unless the massage really sucks, then why would he go? GOOD massages that arent erotic can be orgasmic. i still think i should have asked that thai guy to marry me, even if he was potentially gay, i wouldnt have cared as long as he promised me massages.

    my bf does my massages now because the massages in the uk are expensive and they suck. even when i talk about getting a massage or teaching him thai massage he says “well, arent i good enough?”

    not to be mean but i would drop bf like a hat if i lived in thailand, sorry.

    a good massage is better than sex. seriously orgasmic, and this was STRICTLY NON EROTIC MASSAGE. i wasnt even naked, not with the male masseures anyway. i was once with a female one in a spa and my bisexual friend said she felt really odd being naked in front of another woman..

    damn i wish i asked to marry that masseure.. ;)

  25. 25 Victor W said at 1:22 pm on March 28th, 2010:

    Go with him. Some masseues massage penis too!

  26. 26 ronaldward71 said at 1:51 pm on March 28th, 2010:

    Friend ,
    If you realy love him ,and he realy loves you ,then you shouldnt be worried .
    But i doubt that either of you do ,so i would ? his motives.
    God bless.

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